meeting girls at a cocktail part

If you’re able to control the flow of a conversation, you have an advantage at cocktail parties. Women will be charmed by your confidence and skill.

As I said in the previous article, you should have remembered people’s names and what they do after chatting with them. This information will come in handy. For example, a lady tells you about her home-based small business and how she needs an accountant to help her close the books for the year, and you happened to have met an accountant that evening, you could tell her, “I just happened to know Dave over there, who might be able to help you. Let me introduce.” Then you should accompany her, walk her over to Dave and stay with the conversation as much as possible. Afterwards, ask her if Dave is helpful.

Now, let’s see. You’ve just done her a favor. You’ve given her the impression that you’re well-connected. And if you stayed with the conversation, you’ve shown her that you care enough to make sure Dave is helping her, and also, make sure Dave doesn’t steal her from you!

Damn, I’m smooth. Hope this helps. Go practise, guys!

I have seen lots of miserable moves from guys in Disco/Club (or bar with dance floor, whatever you want to call that). Now let us share some secrets on how to pick up ladies on the dance floor or club.

Remember, to be able to pick up ladies on dance floor or clubs, you need to understand what works and what doesn’t in that atmosphere, as well as pick the right atmosphere. Are you ready? Let’s start from the venue and music choice, shall we?

Music - First thing first, just focus on Hip Hop club, forget about all other trance, techno, house clubs, period. You only need to be good at hip hop dance to pick up ladies on the dance floor, forget about dancing trance, techno, etc. Why? Because you can really dance with a girl together in Hip Hop, not trance or techno. If you want to do Salsa, that’s fine too. The key is to go to a club that plays music that you can actually dance with girls; not dance alone.

Venue - Pick a medium size venue. If the venue is too small or too big (with few people), all your pick up moves from one corner will be spotted by everyone from the other corner, which drastically decreases you chance if you fail. Remember, this is a trial and error game, so there are success and failure, if you fail on one , move on to the others. So you better not be spotted on failure by all the people in the club

Dress - I have seen lots of guys dressing sloppy in the clubs. Come on guys, you are meeting girls, so please dress smart and sexy. No shorts and nerdy clothes please. Here are my tips, dress shirt and jeans, and dress shoes always work. Most of the girls like it, neat and sexy. Do NOT tuck-in your shirts. Make sure you wear some good cologne because girls are very sensitive to good cologne; they would even come up and praise your cologne and sniff on your neck if your smell impresses them! Wearing cap or hat is not a bad idea if you want to act cool. But remember, you have to look cool, not dumb.

This is it for Part I. Hope it is useful. More parts coming.

Now forget about verbal communication