How do you ask a girl out for dinner, being a nerdy guy like you? First, did you do your research? Do you know what kind of food she likes? This is very important. If you did your homework, it will increase your chance of success asking her out for a memorable dinner; the reverse is also true. So, for example, if you ask her to go out for Japanese food, and she flatly rejects and tells you that, of all cuisines, she hates Japanese the most. Bummer! Silence on the phone…there’s not much you can do then. And you’ve done poorly, she probably thinks that you’ve known her for quite some time and you still don’t know she hates Japanese food and it reflects badly on you.
So how do you ask?
You need techniques:
- Testing her with the right questions: You can throw a teaser line such as “haven’t had French food for a while, I heard there’s a new restaurant which is pretty good”. Her response tells a lot. If she’s interested she will follow on with the topic. If you’re not that bold. You can also ask, “Where do you go for a nice meal with your friends these days?” If you’re lucky enough that she takes the initiative, you need to spot the opportunity. Don’t laugh, many guys aren’t sensitive enough to notice. She’ll probably say something like “haven’t had French food for a while…”, then you should take the hint and say “Yea, I’ve been thinking about having French food too, so, when would you be free?”
- Asking for a day/time to meet: Don’t do the following – “Are you free on Friday?”. That’s just poor technique. It makes it easy for her to reject you. What if she flatly says “No”? Then your back is against the wall. Heard of open-ended questions? You should have asked “When is a good time next week?” This is more difficult to reject. Is she gonna say “I’m not free all next week”, perhaps, but much less likely, unless she really hates you.
- A place to meet: In the US, most people drive. But in Asia we all live in crowded metropolitans. So pick somewhere easy for her to find, safe, and not too crowded. If you pick somewhere crowded, hot, hard-to-find, she’ll doubt your ability to plan a decent dinner.
